24.5.09

Pagan blog promts... handfasting

Greetings to everybody! This is a response to p.b.p. about how i would get married. As i already told you i live in Greece! Here everybody is supposed to be free to choose their religion but when it comes to ceremonies you have to go either greek orthodox,muslim or jewish! Anything else is not recognised by law.
My soulmate is atheist but our families are christians! He does n't care how we get married but they do! I explained him about handfasting and he thinks the symbolism is beautiful. The wedding is supposed to be about the couple! So we are going to have a handfasting ceremony and then we will make it official with a political wedding! This decision is going to piss off a lot of people. But we do n't care! There is no way to make everyone happy and whoever objects is not invited( this includes our parents as well as the rest of the world). It is a bit radical but it is who we are.
As a couple we had to fight a lot. We left home at the age of 19 and that made my dad to not speak to me for two years. We struggled with money, jobs, surviving while we were finding out we were on our own. It turned out okay because our feelings were true and we feel blessed everyday. It is us against the rest of the world. We have n't found yet the exact spot we want it to happen but we know it is going to be in the forest. We want it to be during the summer( since it is outdoors!). We have no idea who is going to perform it. I want it to be a woman, but i do not know any wiccans! But i have faith that the opportunity will be shown to us the right moment!I want to wear a green dress with cream details and him with cream simple shirt and a cream pair of pants! Right there in the woods we will have a picnic, nothing fancy but with lots of wine! Our friends(most of them musicians like us)will bring with them acoustic organs and we will all play and sing in the forest. At least this is how i am imagining it. We are not rushing anything because we already feel married but i checked it and it is a good astrological day the first of august of 2010(on Lammas). Only problem he is Libra and Saturn will be on Libra by then. Maybe i am overthinking it but i want it to be blessed by the powers of the universe. Tell me what you think! Be blessed my friends!

7 comments:

Tavin Orion said...

It sounds perfect!!! Don't listen to anybody but your own heart. My hubby and I ended up elopping because our families were trying to make the wedding about what they wanted, not what we wanted. I felt exactly the same that nothing mattered but the union of us. It sounds so beautiful. Stupid question (I don't know much about the geography over there) where is the closest forest to you? As for finding someone to do the ceremony...honestly just ask the lord and lady to present the perfect person for the job to you. (Be patient and have faith, since you have until 8/2010) But they will provide the perfect person!!!
Blessed Be!,
Tavin
PS congrats on the engagement

SeeThroughGreen said...

beautiful! I think that you should do what feels right at the time. Dont make realy detailed plans about absolutly everything. It is supposed to be really happy and planning makes you stress...and then get wrinkles..and grey HAIR...and MIGRANES!! :) jk. but just go with the gently directed flow...directed by you and hubby :) Im sure you will find a wiccan priestess that can preform and if you cant then consider preforming the rite to each other in front of your friends...kind of like writing your own vows.
I dunno...but your image sounds lovely and very happy!
Peace to you both :)

Hibiscus Moon said...

Good for you for doing exactly what YOU and your soul mate want. This is YOUR wedding. Not everyone else's. You're doing the right thing to take the time to plan it well and get exactly what you want. Go for it.

Tracy said...

i think it is great that you and your fiance have made that tough decision. me and my fiance (i am pagan he is jewish) have yet to decide on the type of ceremony we want. just remember that it is your wedding and no one else has the right to ruin your day.

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mrsb said...

I think that might be the most beautiful plan for a handfasting I've ever heard! What a natural, simple, joy filled occasion it will be!

And good for you for doing it the way you want. A wedding, should be about the couple and what they want to start their lives together - not about the parents, or relatives, or what the community thinks is "right".

BellBookCandleSupply said...

Handfasting is definitely one of the many celebrations wherein overflowing amount of joy is sincerely shared. A wonderful way of expressing undying love to whom you wanna be with as long as you live. Unconventional for some but its meaning is so profound and deep.
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