22.3.10

To gain one to lose another

Greetings to all my beautiful blogfriends new or old. Yesterday i mourned the fact that one of my oldest friends is not in fact in my life anymore and that we grew apart. It was something bothering me for a long time but i have been in denial. I did n't want to accept that. We listen to the same music, he makes me laugh, i make him laugh, he always cheats when we play backgammon, we share a wonderful history of the brightest and more fun years of our lives. I am getting married and i have n't told him. He graduated from college and he did n't tell me. We rarely see each other anymore and when it happens it is because i can not let go. If you do not fight for a friendship though, what do you fight for? Can people who grew apart renew their friendship? I hope so. Either way i am still not giving up.
On a happier note, i think today is the beginning of a new friendship with a person that called me as a client but ended up having a conversation that lasted a whole hour. She is a young witch with great potential. Do n't you just love karma? Losing one, gaining another.
Ostara was joyful and full of light as it should be. I did n't make any wreaths as i planned but i was surrounded by beautiful plants and colourful flowers and i made 2 yellow candles for luck and self healing, one purple for protection and cleansing and a green one for luck and money. I usually make my magical candles during Imbolc, but this year i have been kind of lazy and i make them whenever i need them. As i told you in my last post i had a sensation that this Equinox was going to be powerful and i was n't proven wrong. The brightness of this day was almost overwhelming.
Today is Monday the day of the moon. Celebrate the love in your life and open your hearts to feelings and emotions. Use silver or grey candles and burn an incense of eucalyptus for emotional and physical healing.
Brightest blessings, love and light.

13 comments:

Me said...

Sometimes it seems we do not get what we want, but in actuality, we get what we need.

Brightest Blessings hun.

Bitsa Lit said...

Thanks for commenting on my blog lol!
I really do know what youre feeling about sorta losing your friend... It has happened to me many times... because of excess drinking, hard drug use or simply growing apart.
But there will always be someone there to fill the gap and when you need your old friend back... he will be there for you!

Shadow said...

oh, thank you for this. i didn't know monday is the day of the moon. could this change my perception of monday? well, every little bit helps.

Judy said...

I feel for your loss of a friend...I also am losing one...It is so nice to speak w/him when I do, but it's not very often...miss him...enjoy your spring equinox...

Sharon Day said...

You are always hope and light. I'm glad you see that from sad events there is always a happy event. People don't usually stop and notice the correlations, but they are always there.

mxtodis123 said...

People come into our lives for a reason; some remain with us throughout our lives; others move on, but forever remain in our hearts.
Mary

jaz@octoberfarm said...

i had friends at times in my life whom i thought i would grow into old age with. most i have not seen in years and probably never will. who knows what happens? it is just life. my husband found the jar of the caramel nuts you sent to me and he ate the whole thing while watching basketball the other night. i almost killed him. i went to my favorite greek store this morning and bought some of those breads that you sent me. i am so excited that i can get them here. they had small ones too. i bought feta and spices and some grape leaves so i will make dolmates in the next few days. i even saw some of those chewy candies you sent too. it's so fun to now have new favorites and know i can get them here. i think i am making a leg of lamb for easter instead of ham this year. you have me thinking greek.

Bitsa Lit said...

lol! I dont feel like we live continents apart either! Its like I really do know you, even though I havent ever seen you.
I never realy thought about it, but I guess it is quite possible that I am an empath...
I have always been quite in tune with how other people are feeling (theyre usually within the city though :P ) so I guess you might have something there.
Ill do some looking into it and see what I come up with!

I do wish you luck with your friend though. I know how hard it can be to remember all the good times that you had, you can see their face, feel the atmosphere in the rooms, smell them, their clothes, hair... etc. and then you realise that theyre not in your life anymore.
When its time for you to get back into the fun and easy life, or time for him to settle down a bit, you two will get back together like nothing ever happened! And when the day comes, cause it will!, you'll know that it was for a reason and that you both need each other.
Peace
:)

Unknown said...

It is always hard to let go of an old friend. That said, sometimes it does make way for new ones. Not that you do already have to room for them in your heart but sometimes it is hard to accept them when you are wrapped up in the loss of the old. Like you said, Karma has a funny way of doing things though. I am sure that this old friend will always have a place in your heart for all the joy he brought you while he was in your life.

jaz@octoberfarm said...

i am making dolmates tomorrow and maybe pita. i made hummus today adn greek salad dressing. i will post them when they are done!

Bitsa Lit said...

nope, just ate better stuff I guess... not a lot of fast food, no pop or chips... I had a lot of veggie wraps and stuff like that... lots of Greek Salads (the real kind, not crappy american shiiit) and not a lot of starchy veggies like potatoes and carrots...
looking back... it really wasnt that hard to do at all!

Rue said...

Friends do come and go - this is a lesson I have learned too. It's hard to let go sometimes. I'm happy to hear of your new friend though!

Spring blessings to you, Sweetie!

jaz@octoberfarm said...

awwwww...thanks...that is nice of you to say. my kids don't really want to learn to cook from me either. the Blog Tech will do it sometimes but basically they leave it up to me! what is our mothers most special dish which she makes?